I’m really excited about this book i am currently reading written by Joyce Meyer. It is on Living Beyond your Feelings.
These are key things i learnt from the introduction and chapter 1 ‘I want to do what is right, but I do what is wrong!’.
Okay, so we will be learning on controlling emotions so they don’t control you.
‘Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming, but we can choose which one to surf’. – Jonatan Martensson
Our feelings are ever changing usually without notification. We talk about how we feel more than practically anything else. We should keep quiet about negative feelings and talk about positive ones. Talking about how you feel increases the intensity of those feelings.
Decision and Confession
‘I am going to talk about my positive feelings so they will increase, and keep quiet about my negative feelings so they lose their strength.
‘I choose to do what is right, no matter how I feel’.
You can always tell God how you feel and ask for his help and strength, but talking about negative feelings just to be talking does no good at all. (Read Matthew 12:36. Proverbs 10:19).
Although feelings can be very strong and demanding, we do not have to let them rule our lives. We can learn to manage our emotions rather than allow them manage us. We have free will and we can make decisions that are not based on feelings, thankfully. If we are willing to make right choices regardless of how we feel, God will always be faithful to give us the strength to do so. He gives us the strength to do what is right but we are the ones who must choose it, God won’t do it for us. He helps us but we must participate by choosing right over wrong.
Feelings are neither good nor evil. They are just unstable and must be managed. They can be enjoyable and wonderful, but they can also make us miserable and drive us to make choices we eventually regret.
Make a decision that you will no longer let your feelings control you.
It has been said that emotions are the Christian’s number on enemy because they can easily prevent us from following the will of God. We let emotions confuse us and that often leads us to make decisions we later regret.
We should pay attention to our inner person because when we die, our spirits and souls are the parts of us that will live forever, but our bodies will simply decay.
1 peter 3:3-4 summarizes that when we pay excessive attention to how we look and ignore the hidden person of the heart, and God is not pleased. It would be far better for us to work with the Holy Spirit to improve our thoughts, emotions, attitudes, imaginations and consciences.
One part of us (the inner person) wants to do what we know to be right, and another part (the outer part) wants to do what is wrong. The wrong thing can feel right and the right thing feels wrong. Remember that we cannot judge the moral value of any action by how we feel. Our feelings are unreliable and cannot be trusted to convey the truth.
The spirit of God convicts us to follow wisdom rather than emotions. If a woman (or man) has no reasonable knowledge of Gods word and no relationship with him, she may not care if what she wants is right or not. She may choose to sin but her choice is due to ignorance. Due to rebellion and perhaps a life long habit of letting her emotions rule but the Christian is unable to sin and not care. (Read Romans 7:15)
Develop the ability to say no to yourself if what you want does not agree with Gods word. Learn to lean on God for strength and then use His will to choose what is right no matter how you feel. (1 Corinthians 15:31).
Every good thing in life requires an initial investment (which is usually painful) before we see the reward. Exercise is painful, but it produces reward. Saving money means we need to deny ourselves some of the things we want, but the reward is financial security later in life. Taking time to study Gods word and learn His character requires discipline, but it brings a great reward.
The soul is where our thoughts and emotions reside. Learning to understand the difference between soul and spirit is vital. If we can ever hope to have and measure of stability and victory in life.