You have to reach a point where you know it’s only God that can change your situation. This was where Jabez was at.
His name literally was supposed to work against him as Jabez meant “Pain” but He knew it was only God that could change his situation regardless of what he was called.
“There was a man named Jabez who was more honorable than any of his brothers. His mother named him Jabez because his birth had been so painful. He was the one who prayed to the God of Israel, “Oh, that you would bless me and expand my territory! Please be with me in all that I do, and keep me from all trouble and pain!” And God granted him his request.”
1 Chronicles 4:9-10 NLT